The 10 Warning Signs of Caregiver Stress

There are many articles and publications advising people about caregiver stress and the health risks involved for persons who ignore the signs of stress. The following is a list of the 10 most common changes a caregiver may be experiencing that indicates signs of stress.

1) Social isolation - a decline in the ability to maintain outside social contacts and activities.

As your caregiver duties increase, your ability to participate in the social aspect of your life may decrease. Having a proper support system in place to allow yourself respite from daily caregiving is important.

2) Loss of sleep - resulting in exhaustion, fatigue and low energy.

We all suffer occasional loss of sleep. However, if you find that you are sleeping 5-6 hours or less - 4 or more times each week, you may become exhausted. Lack of proper sleep can contribute to an inability to fight infection, inability to cope with stressful situations, confusion and depression. Seek advice from your physician.

3) Irritability / Frustration - you may lose patience, speak more sharply than normal or cry often.

It is normal for all of us to feel irritable from time to time - however, we should be able to control our emotions to prevent outbursts. Losing patience, shouting, speaking sharply or crying often do not help us alevieate the situation - and can actually contribute to our bad feelings.

Many caregivers are what we frequently refer to as the "Sandwich Generation". They are caring for their own children and family as well as a parent or other loved one. Support systems and respite from caregiving are clearly indicated.

4) Loss of freedom and changes in lifestyle.

Many caregivers begin to feel burdened by their caregiving role. They can no longer enjoy the spontinaity that others in their family or circle of friends have. This can cause feelings of resentment.

It is important to set aside time for yourself - even if it is a simple ride in the car.

5) Depression.

Caregivers are 70% more likely to suffer depression than non-caregivers in their age group. Signs of depression may be: Changes in appetite or weight. Changes in sleep pattern. Feeling that "nothing matters". Crying frequently. Thoughts of suicide. IMPORTANT: Any signs of depression or thoughts of suicide should be taken very seriously. Seek medical attention immediately.

6) Anxiety and Fear.

Dwelling on the thought "what will tomorrow bring". Anxiety attacks (shortness of breath; panic; dizziness...) Reuminating over all aspects of care and caregiving.

Although these are normal feelings for caregivers, they can be a debilitating condition. Fear and panic can prevent us from thinking clearly and acting rationally. See your physician.

7) Burnout.

Becoming overwhelmed with the caregiver duties. Finding it more and more difficult to accomplish tasks, plan for needed care, services or assistance. Very often anger or depression accompany burnout. Caregivers often feel that they've let their loved one or family member down.

Seek assistance from others. Joining a support group can be very helpful.

8) Loss of time to care for oneself.

Caregivers often put themselves 2nd, 3rd, and even fourth on the list - leaving their own needs and focusing on the needs of their loved one. Very often this lack of self focus can be a huge contributing factor to depression.

Take time for yourself - exercise for 20 minutes each day. Choose one day a week (or month) for self indulgence - get a facial, have your hair done, see a movie, go out to lunch or dinner with a friend.

9) Health Problems.

An increase in stress and the decrease in self focus causes the caregiver to be at an alarming increased risk for health problems. Caregivers suffer an increase in infection, high blood pressure, anxiety, are slower to heal from injury and other health issues.

Remember - you are no good to your loved one if you cannot function due to illness. Talk to your physician - and make extra efforts to care for yourself by eating well, attempting to get enough sleep, drink plenty of water and taking time out each day to relax.

10) Guilt.

The most damaging of the caregiver experiences is guilt. Having feelings of anger, frustration and resentment are normal, however, caregivers tend to "beat themselves up" over every emotion they feel or express. Guilt often prevents caregivers from seeking the assistance they need for themselves and their loved one. Statements like "I promised my mother I would never put her in a nursing home." are unrealistic. Seeking professional care can be, and often is, the best thing you can do for you and your loved one.

Be proactive. Do not wait for an emergency when you are forced to make a decision. Take the time now to gather information, tour locations near your home, ask questions and seek out support.

The Alzheimer's Association has information regarding area facilities and organizations that provide programs and services for persons with a memory impairing illness. (716)626-0600.

For information regarding Elderwood Senior Care and our Seasons Memory Care Program, please contact us at (716)633-3900.